jooleeanne asked: Hey I just want to say I think you are super interesting and gorgeous. I was just curious as to whether you have ever shaved before? Because the progress you have made with your body hair is incredible. Also you said the state you live in allows you to walk around shirtless and whatnot and I was just wondering where that is? You are truly inspirational :]
Aww thank you so much, Lady; you’re so sweet. :)
To answer your questions, I guess I’ll take this opportunity to tell a bit of my story to anyone who wants to read my long winded response. :P
I started shaving my legs and underarms when I was eleven or twelve, I would say, as many girls do. It was just “what you do.” I have a cousin who is maybe ten to fifteen years older than me, and I remember being SO impressed and intrigued by her when I was a kid and we would go to the beach together because she was always the only woman there with a bushy pubic line and hairy armpits and legs. I thought she was awesome for not allowing other’s expectations of her to dictate her actions and personal choices. It took me MANY years to reach that point of comfort and security within myself.
I was made fun of a great deal in school for my body hair from a pretty young age. It was worst in middle school and early high school. People called me Sasquatch, monkey girl, and said I was gross pretty often, especially on the school bus. I never fed their mean spirited fires and they eventually stopped because they realized they weren’t getting any kind of satisfying reaction out of me. Inside, I was embarrassed and angry. I wanted the hair to just go away. I was also angry because, secretly, I just wanted to feel like it was okay to love my body hair. But everywhere, all around me, including in my family, people were telling me it was nasty and ugly and unfeminine. From age fourteen on, I tried waxing, electrolysis, bleaching, plucking and more (in addition to the shaving I was already doing) to get rid of it. It was painful, costly, and depressing, because no matter what, it just kept coming back thicker and fuller.
I started growing hair on my face, neck, belly, breasts and chest around the same time (maybe a year or two before) I first started shaving. Right around puberty. I shaved my belly and chest ALL THE TIME. I was very careful about not letting people see those parts of me especially. It was very difficult to keep up with and sometimes I would get really bad razor burn on my chest and often my hair would be so thick on my chest that it looked like I had a five o’clock shadow before the day was over. I wore a lot of high necked shirts. I despised the whole situation.
Shaving has always been painful and the smoothness incredibly fleeting because I have such thick hair and it grows SO fast. I’m stubbly within about eight hours of shaving and the stubble itches for days. I can only shave once every two or three days or I get the worst razor burn in the world, so bad my hair follicles will often bleed. Also, it takes at least an hour for me to shave my body hair. I did this awful ritual for years when I was going to school, and it didn’t stop people from making fun of me. It was only my cool-headed, calm, and compassionate reactions to their antagonism that stopped them. So, I began asking myself over and over, WHY? WHY am I doing this to myself?
I’ve always had an underlying desire to love my body hair. It didn’t happen all at once. It started with me asking a guy I was dating (when I was 15) if he minded that I had stopped shaving my legs. He said, “I don’t mind if you don’t shave your legs if you don’t mind that I don’t shave mine.” It was one of the most sensible things I have ever heard. It just seemed so obvious to him and that amazed me. I found him to be extraordinary, and he made me feel truly accepted in my skin in that moment. After that, I rarely shaved my armpits or legs, but I kept shaving the rest of my body hair. It took me a while and I found it challenging to be able to feel sexy with hair on my chest and belly. From there, it was a pretty slow process of acceptance until, finally, at around age twenty-two, I began to fully accept it and stopped removing it altogether. I shaved my whole body one more time, maybe a year after I started growing it all out. It reminded me why I was stopping and solidified my desire to keep my fuzzies intact. It’s been around three years, now, since I last shaved anything other than my face and neck. I fully ADORE my body hair. Especially my fuzzy belly. It’s always been my favorite.
During all this time, I have had so many intense experiences regarding body hair and have come to some really awesome conclusions and understandings about myself and human psychology in general. I’ve also made some intriguing and incredible discoveries regarding health and how it is affected by body hair removal and many other related and common grooming practices. I find it all utterly fascinating. But I’ll leave all that for another story. :}
You seem like a very cool and interesting chica. Thank you for making askings and for the sweet and uplifting words. :) Wishing you well!
Light and Love and Sparkly Rainbow Joyfaces, Phee
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