Anonymous asked:Hi, I'm not trying to be rude at all, but how did you come to terms with your body and love yourself as someone who may not always fit into the "ideal girl" stereotype? You're really inspiring and I really wish I had your confidence :( You're gorgeous.
Thank you! :) I’m really glad you are feeling inspired to have more self confidence. A while ago on here, I wrote about my struggles with body hair, and how I’ve slowly come to terms with not fitting the “ideal girl” stereotype as you say. Here is the link: http://phoenixfloe.tumblr.com/post/44548081359/hey-i-just-want-to-say-i-think-you-are-super
In addition to what I wrote there, I want to add that there are a few other daily practices that have really helped me. One thing I do that I have found hugely empowering (it may sound silly or feel silly at first) is to look at myself in the mirror everyday and say at least three positive things about myself to myself - they can be positive things about any aspect of myself and they change depending on what aspect I feel I need a boost in (physical, mental, emotional).
Another helpful tool is meditation. I suggest reading books about it, looking it up online, and finding some good guided meditations (I haven’t looked myself but I have heard there are some really good ones on iTunes and some free ones on YouTube) if you are unfamiliar with or struggle with meditation. I don’t meditate nearly as much as I would like to, but when I do (especially when I make it a daily practice) it ALWAYS helps tremendously.
I feel waaay more confident and happy with my body when I am eating healthy, happy foods, drinking a lot of water, staying physically active, and getting plenty of sleep. I think these are four of the very best things a person can do to practice self love (to realize self love, I believe one must commit to the process and practice self loving activities regularly). A few more that are important for me are not drinking alcohol and coffee, not smoking tobacco, and not doing drugs that put a strain on my body. If I do any of these things, I must do them in very careful moderation.
I read a lot of Buddhist books and literature about compassion. They have helped me more than I can explain to be a more loving, tolerant, curious person in general, not just to those around me, but also to myself. Practicing gentleness in everything I do is very helpful. I especially focus on being gentle and kind to myself, specifically, and practice having a positive mental attitude towards myself as much as possible. I also read a lot of uplifting children’s books. I’m always on the lookout for good ones at Goodwill. My all time favorite is Hailstones and Halibut Bones and my second favorite is Let’s Be Happy by P.K. Halinan. I’ll be recording a video of myself doing a dramatic reading of both soon - I’ll post them when I do! :) I wish you all the best! Much love and light!
“Be wise. Treat yourself, your mind, sympathetically, with loving kindness. If you are gentle with yourself, you will become gentle with others.”
Lama Thubten Yeshe